Showing posts with label extramarital affairs. Show all posts
Showing posts with label extramarital affairs. Show all posts

Saturday, February 20, 2010

Finally, Tiger Starts the Process




By Eric Seidel, CEO

The Media Trainers®

The intimate and outrageous behavior that has led to Tiger Woods’ personal crisis is akin to a catastrophic air disaster and required a similar swift and comprehensive response similar to any airline suffering an accident.

The fact that he waited so long has been a serious setback to rehabilitating his image and has been roundly criticized by many, including two earlier postings in this space (Tiger Woods & Anyone Remember Letterman?).

But, in finally coming out from behind his Web site, Woods has made some positive moves; moves that others can learn from.

First, he established a “beachhead”, or meeting point with plenty of notice to the media. This was not a hit-and-run. Next, his remarks were directed to specific audiences, including family members, close friends, fans, young students under the tutelage of his education foundation, and, most notably, business partners (i.e., sponsors). He called stories claiming his wife, Elin, attacked him on Thanksgiving night "fabricated." And he admonished the media and paparazzi to stay away from his family, including his mother.

The fact that he did not take questions in this round was not surprising, although very much an important open issue that needs to be addressed soon. Instead, he had set the ground rules and established boundaries. By doing that, when the time comes for one or more interviews, Woods now has clear message points he can bridge to in any give-and-take that tries to take him into details he's not willing to discuss. Among those messages:

à He admittedly was unfaithful, had affairs and cheated.

à His behavior was unacceptable and he alone is to blame.

à Any conversations between he and his wife will remain between them; that, in other words, is off limits.

à And (to me, a most refreshing message rarely heard from a long-coddled athlete brought down by his own doing) he allowed his celebrity to mislead him into thinking social mores did not apply to him. (Click on video below.)

Was he genuine, honest, and seriously contrite? Any third person answer is subjective. No one can get into Tiger Woods’ head to know for sure. How he conducts himself in the future will go a long way toward answering those questions.

He does need to confront the media again, and soon, this time prepared to answer questions, tough questions that will attempt to circumvent the messages and boundaries he’s established. His answers need to be responsive, honest and lacking bite, no matter how provoked emotionally he might feel. But, as discussed above, he can be responsive and remain on message now that he has set a messaging foundation.

Again, Tiger Woods' delay to this point has served only to dig himself a deeper hole. Hence, the lessons learned are negative and positive. In times of crisis, you need to react quickly and transparently. And have a plan that sets specific ground rules while also helping establish you as the best source of accurate, honest information.

Tiger's tale has gotten way ahead of him because he waited so long. That, alone, has inflicted irreparable harm. But, at least he's begun the process. It will be fascinating to see and hear what follows.

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Tiger Woods


By Eric Seidel, CEO
The Media Trainers®

John Edwards, David Letterman, Tiger Woods. Which one doesn’t belong? Yes, they all had extramarital affairs. But only Letterman broke the news himself and thereby took some control over the story.

Edwards tried to play hide-and-seek so long, in the end he looked incredibly foolish. Somehow he thought he could dodge the bullet.

In Woods’ case, he had both those incidents from which to learn and decided on the wrong lesson. He could’ve gotten ahead of this story on his terms, instead of being forced to respond on someone else’s.

A post-midnight one car crash into a tree and fire hydrant, inside an exclusive Florida gated community. The driver: Tiger Woods. Considering the late hour of the “accident” just outside his home, somehow, in your gut, you knew it was much more than it appeared.

And so it was. It took 6 days of intrigue, with the world watching and wondering, receiving at one point an ambiguous online statement.

Inevitably an information vacuum quickly developed, only to be filled by the physics of gossip, rumor, speculation and innuendo.

Finally, on the 6th day, after rumors of one affair with a New York woman, Us Magazine broke the news of a nearly three year affair with an L.A. cocktail waitress. Then, Tiger had no choice. He released a statement on his web site that was reported worldwide within minutes via media like ESPN’s all news channel (click on video).
He had been warned. Two days into the story, NBCSports.com blogger Michael Ventre encouraged Woods to speak up.

Communication professionals could see clearly what was at stake by remaining silent. One in particular,
edit30, Insight for Business Communicators, recognized Woods for what he’s become, a brand. And brands live, or die, on perceptions. Communicators understand how news and information are spread today, both in terms of speed and validity. And they learn from the mistakes of others’ past experiences. Unfortunately, their advice is too often ignored, if even solicited.
Known for his uncanny ability to focus and concentrate, just how might this story and the way it was allowed to unravel become an ongoing distraction for Tiger Woods? Or, have we been following this amazing athlete unaware of his superior ability to compartmentalize?